"I Don't Repeat Gossip, So Listen Closely..."

These words are printed on a decorative plaque which hangs in my mother's kitchen. I can only assume that someone thought the words were cute and funny, but gossip is neither cute nor funny. Gossip lowers the spiritual vibration of everyone who participates in it. When people engage in gossip, their thoughts turn to judgement and they experience any number of toxic emotions such as jealousy, resentment, irritation, anger, depression and suspicion.

Never forget that words have equal power to hurt and to heal. Whenever possible, choose words that uplift, encourage, inspire and heal others. Speak kindly of others. Do not delight in the misfortune of others. When you encounter gossip, try to gently change the topic of discussion as quickly as possible. I like to say something like, "May the angels speak kindly of her in heaven."

Gossip isn't always full of negative judgements of others or details of their bad news. Sometimes people pass on another person's good news, thinking there is no harm in this type of gossip because it's positive--but even positive gossip can hurt. For example, news of a friend getting married or expecting a new baby can hurt someone who is struggling in their love life or longing for a child of their own. In addition, the person you're talking about might not wish to share their good news with many others.

Sometimes you might discuss another person or the events of someone else's life because you are struggling with that person or are otherwise troubled by the information, and you require support or advice. In these situations, respect the other person as much as possible. Carefully consider your choice of confidant--do not discuss these matters with someone who cannot advise you appropriately or who is likely to repeat what you have said in confidence. Don't reveal unnecessary details, choose your words very carefully, and avoid judging the other person. Their actions could be hurtful or troubling to you, but they could be reacting to pain and suffering that you are unaware of.

Before you speak about another person, ask yourself why you feel compelled to say something. Check your intentions and make sure that you have every one's highest good in mind.

May the angels speak kindly of us all in heaven!

~*~Monica Who~*~